“You know you have mastered a soul lesson when the circumstance has not changed, but the way you respond has. This is true energy self-mastery.” By unknown
This is gold! It teaches us to first accept the absolute fact that the situation has happened. It is un-emotional, non-debatable, irrefutable fact. It happened! Now, how we respond is all that matters.
We have all read how the choice of response is completely our own. Not everyone is perfectly self-aware or self-disciplined enough to always react perfectly, so stop worrying about that. Do your best and promise yourself you will learn from each reaction to help you deal with the next. Mastery isn’t something that just happens, it requires practice.