“I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds. Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from. I’m slowly learning that life is better lived when you don’t centre it on what’s happening around you and centre it on what’s happening inside you instead. Work on yourself and your inner peace.” From The Minds Journal
I initially felt resistance to accepting this one and wanted to argue against the first parts of it. When I got to the part about working on myself, I started to get it. We’ve all read similar sentiments as this one, such as it isn’t what happens to us that matters, it’s only how we choose to react that makes all the difference. The only way you are ever going to be able to change how you react to life experiences is to see it from within.
Start with the mindset of letting things be. They happened, you can’t change them, so make a choice how to move forward, but whatever you choose, make sure you move on. There is little benefit in dwelling in the past; you will only miss out on the present and limit your future opportunities.
As I reread this statement over and over, I keep remembering more quotes. Things like, don’t tell anyone what you ‘are going to do’; do it and then show them. Also, don’t explain and never justify why you did what you did, or made what you made. If they don’t understand it, it is simply not in their experience to do so. Instead, seek understanding and ask them what they see or understand. Remember, this is their unique perspective based on their life experience; it isn’t right, nor wrong, and it will always be different from your perspective, because you have different life experiences. If it is easier, accept that everyone’s opinion is correct, from their perspective, and let it be.
Finally, you are guided to always return to your centre, your perspective, your gut when seeking to grow ‘your’ understanding of any experience. The logical reason is that your perspective will always be the only true perspective that is in alignment with who you are at the moment you hold it. Again, because you are entirely unique, with unique life experiences, and unique perspectives on them.