“You are not your mistakes; They are what you did, not who you are.” By Lisa Lieberman-Wang
This shakes me up a lot and I am having a hard time getting bro the root cause of the shake-up. My current job and path at university put me in a position of constant external evaluation and judgement/validation.
At school, it is clear that I get different kinds of feedback from teachers and the reality is that it isn’t always easy to enter into a discussion with them to clarify their evaluations in order to improve thy work. Furthermore, there is an accepted reality in University that professors tend to be subjective in their evaluations, especially in my field of study, art education. Everything is based on personal reflection and perception, so the challenge of getting an objective evaluation is daunting. I logically understand what the challenge is to the teachers, and just have to steel myself against their subjective judgements.
At work, I hope this would be different, but I write articles for clients who aren’t always able to give me clear directives or objectives. I rely on dialogue and feedback from them to be able to deliver what they want. It’s hard when they don’t clearly know what they want and lay the blame for not delivering on me. I accept my responsibility of only being able to do what I perceive they want, but it still touches my ego when I’m blamed for missing the mark.
This quote reaffirm to me the imperative of letting go of all judgement in regard to mistakes and accepting them as lessons learned. Each mistake is an opportunity to improve oneself. If anyone feel justified in blaming us for mistakes, then that’s their cross to bear. I can choose to learn from the experience and improve.