“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it… This will miraculously transform your whole life.” By Eckhart Tolle
Read it again. Let it sink in a bit. Read it again. Ok, now allow the truth of this, as you currently understand it change you. If you need to read The Power of Now, by Tolle, go ahead. He repeats this concept dozens of times throughout the book in a slightly different way each time.
We don’t need to react to everything that happens. It happened, so just act upon it. Subtle difference? Yes. For me, it helped to remember a basic principle of physics: “every action has an equal and opposite reaction.” I never was able to fully transfer this idea to the feelings I have experienced throughout my life. In the concept of physics , it always felt like I was never in control of my feelings. S*** happens and physics tells me I have no choice but to have an opposing reaction. Well, that doesn’t sound very positive, not constructive , does it?
Emotionally, it feels better to see. Things in a world of “ands/ors” instead of just “ors”. I want to have all the possibilities, instead of just the opposing ones. I’m not sure what example to use to explain this. I feel it, but can’t explain it. Perhaps look at experiences as things that happen for you, instead of against you. When it happens for you, you might more easily adopt a mindset of cooperation. You might work with it, instead of against it. That feels right to me. So, whatever happens, go with it. It happened already and you can’t change that, so act forward.