“Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly and you’ll avoid doing and saying things you’ll later regret.” By Lori Deschene
I feel we react to stuff hardly when the energy of the stimuli is at its highest. Consider the laws of physics that teach us that ever action has an equal and opposite reaction, then the reaction is strongest when the action is strongest. Allowing a pause dissipates the action’s energy and thus the reaction’s energy.
Our brains process stuff at lightning speeds, the the faster the processing, the more reactive the result will be. We will always react, but a pause gives us a moment to consider how best to act upon, instead of reacting. It really is a fragment of a second. You deserve that fragment, so take it to avoid further recrimination from others and yourself.