“Feel the feeling, but don’t become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it.” By Crystal Andrus
Tie this one into the saying: “What we resist, persists.” It’s a law of attraction thing. When we resist a feeling, we are putting emotional anergy on it and that will attract more of what we are focusing energy on.
“Feel the feeling, but don’t become the emotion.” Imagine it this way. When something that evokes sadness in you occurs, don’t say “I am sad”; say “I have sad feelings”. This is a neurolinguistic programming concept in play. Anthony Robbins is the master of this theory, as far as I know. Accepting that something has happened and evokes feelings is an important step in moving through it. However, identifying with that feeling, becoming it sets up a harder psychological link to break. Anytime we use “I am”, we build strong bonds to whatever that is.
If you are not sure about this, them tell how would feel is I said to you: “You’re sad!” For that matter, and I doubt this is only me, but anytime someone accuses me of being an emotion, I get defensive. Well, maybe except being told I’m happy… nope, that too evokes some resistance. That’s a gut reaction and those tend to be true.
What I’m saying is that we are not emotions, we can only have them. Like all things we have, we can let them go in time.