“An unhealed person can find offence in pretty much anything someone does. A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them. Each day you get to decide which one you will be.” From The Minds journal
First, give yourself a little grace; you needn’t be perfect, you are a work in progress. Second, please don’t lump everything in your life into the same basket on this journey. Treat everyone and everything that poses a challenge as an individual case. You. May be healed with some aspects of your life, but not all, and that’s ok. You are progressing.
When a specific situation arises and bothers you, stop and consider why the actions have absolutely n nothing to do you you. The person may have said or done something to you, but they did it for their own reasons. Not because of your reasons. By the way, I’m not sure this is always clear to me either. I get into these moments of. Doubt what someone doesn’t do something, more than when they do something. When I feel neglected or not considered, then I get the old bad feelings of something being done against me. When I can talk to that person, or put myself in their shoes, I usually realize quickly that they didn’t do anything against me.
These days I live with this doubt due to some ‘friends’ who don’t reach out to me as much as I’d like. I spend time thinking about them and wondering what they are up to and how they are doing, but I don’t call them. Partly, because I unrealistically wish they would guess what pains I’m experiencing and give me comfort and solutions. When I let. Myself think logically ab out it, I know they can’t possibly know what I’m going through or feeling, unless I tell them. To be truthful, I’m not healed about this yet. I’m working on it.