Law 13 – Live with purpose:
This chapter in T.J. Hoisington’s “If You Think You Can” is both summation of the previous principals and the most crucial of them all, without which no progress can be begun, much less be made. It’s thanks to this principle that I started blogging, pushing myself to clearly determine what I want to do in life, and embracing The New Renaissance Mindset. ( ) T.J. closes his chapter with these following questions, but I propose we use them to get us started: “When I imagine living a life with purpose, what do I see? In what way will I begin living with a greater sense of purpose? How will I be different? How will I begin contributing? What inner gifts will I begin developing?” Remember that this whole book is about achieving at a higher level than you currently enjoy, so that is where I’ll start to answer these questions.
“Achievers have a can-do spirit about them. They have the habit of finding why things can work rather than why they can’t.” Hoisington What are your habits? Are you like many others; habitually allowing pessimists to ramble on about all their fears about why it can’t work, accepting their justification when they say they are just being realistic? Are you sure that their realism isn’t based on their fear or lack of imagination? After all, don’t you see most of what would be needed to accomplish the dream? Don’t you accept that it might be hard work & require an exit from your current comfort zone? Are you giving up because it’s truly impossible, or because it’s too much for you to handle right now? Be honest with yourself, but also remind yourself why the dream excites you so much. Is that achieving feeling worth the effort? If yes, than return to making it a goal & plan the steps to getting there. Now repeat the process with each smaller step, until you have mapped out how to achieve what others perceived as impossible.
I love the rebuttal given by George Bernard Shaw when challenged about his creativity: “… I dream of things that never were and ask, why not?” We’ve seen similar responses from great leaders, artists, and explorers. Ben Saunders answers this question brilliantly in his Ted Talk entitled “Why bother leaving the house?” Ben teaches us that we need a purpose to move forward in life. If you think about it, he is stating that we first have a need / want, then an action that drives us to achieve it. It can be brought to the simplest need for milk when we’ve run out that gets us to the store for more. Imagine if the convenience store were out too, wouldn’t you most likely go to the next store in hopes of finding it there? Ultimately, why wouldn’t you expect there to be more milk at the next store? Hope comes from purpose. It drives us to take all action.Great leaders offer and inspire purpose and great doers are motivated by it.
You needn’t immediately choose which role to take, but you must gift yourself the time to reflect on these questions:
1- What do you really want to do?
2- What is your most powerful interest?
3- What would you do if money & time were not an issue?
4- What action stirs your emotions more than any other?
5- Now, what is your purpose?
I think we can all agree that there is no better time to take action than the present, but is there a point at which have missed the boat, or is using “I’m too old for that” just another excuse for not having a purpose? Well, here one can practice being more realistic. I mean, deciding today to compete in the 1976 Olympics might not be possible… yet, unless you are willing to imagine and engage in building a time machine. However, restarting an old dream can very well be possible. Remember the story of Grandma Moses who re-engaged her passion for painting nearly 75 years away from it and became known as one of the most renowned and successful American Folk Artists of all time.
T.J. emphasizes that “Acting on your purpose is the key that leads to happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction.” Without purpose we have nothing to aim for, strive for, or drive us forward. As the great motivator, Dale Carnegie says: “If you want to be happy, set a goal that command your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” Or don’t! The alternative is living in your comfort zone of unchallenging mediocracy; Allowing others decide your future and your rewards. Allowing yourself to become your limitations, instead of using those limitations for motivators for growth.
Steven Covey asserts that we are born with tremendous gifts and the more we use them the more we are given. These gifts are already ours and are found in the thoughts and actions that excite us the most. So, why not use them when we are assured to be given more of what excites us. I mean, who really would say no to more bliss?
At the close of this chapter is an irreplaceable quote by Jim Rohn:
“Let others lead small lives, but not you.
Let others cry over small hurts, but not you.
Let others leave there future in someone else’s hands, but not you.”
Will you take up the purpose to be different, to be special, to be unstoppable?