WELCOME TO THE CONTINUING OBSERVATIONS THAT FOLLOW THE DISCUSSIONS SESSIONS BETWEEN MYSELF AND MY MENTOR, BEREL M. WEINER FOR OUR BOOK PROJECT TENTATIVELY CALLED: “THE LADDER OF AWARENESS: THE PROCESS OF BEING YOUR TRUTH.”
THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS FOLLOWING EACH SESSION AND HAVE ALREADY BEGUN TO CHANGE WITH EACH NEW WEEK OF DISCUSSION. SOME OF MY NOTES ARE RAW AND VULNERABLE, WHICH IS VALUABLE TO THE METHOD. I ASK YOU TO BE PATIENT WITH YOUR COMMENTS AS THE PROCESS WILL REVEAL ITSELF IN THE END. YOUR FEEDBACK IS VERY WELCOME AND WE ENCOURAGE YOU TO WRITE THEM FROM A PLACE OF FEELINGS, INSTEAD OF THOUGHTS.
Day 5 –May 15th, 2017
Evaluating my signature sentence:
“I believe successful people have a passion for the work they do.
Their passion makes the work great and I get a RUSH when sharing their stories.
I write to help amazing people get their greatest work into the world.
I am a Successographer.”
Guiding Focus: What changes, improves, or gets created by doing this well?
NOTE: This first part is FYI only… it was a free-writing, train of thought process that brought me closer to understanding the nature of the questions… I feel we can still dig deeper, and I’ll need your help.
First, let’s do a breakdown to get to the why of each part of the statement.
- “I believe successful people have a passion for the work they do.”
Because passion is being exchanged here for a purpose, but I feel purpose is too obvious and doesn’t explain my meaning.
Everyone has a reason to act. That reason is tied to an emotional root.
When they consider the “why” it triggers a strong feeling.
I was recently asked what I thought all successful people had in common and I struggled with the answer. I come up with clever thoughts on the subject, but I want the feeling answer.
I am able to repeat what I’ve read and I believe I have taken a leap of faith on accepting them as truth, but do I feel them? What do I feel about them?
Success comes from a near obsessive need to do what we do. This need drives us to find every possible way to succeed. It fills us with a growth mindset towards accepting failures as learning opportunities and step closer to our goals. It fills us with an unbreakable optimism and attitude of continuous forward momentum. It feeds our curiosity to always learn more, which drives us to and past our initial goals.
Curiosity fills me with excitement and a feeling of hope. Curiosity feels like wonderment to me. It fills me with anticipation. It gives me something to look forward to. It gives me a feeling of purpose.
Curiosity takes me out of the moment.
Is it a motivator or an escape? It can be either, depending on the situation. Is this true?
I’m not convinced.
Curiosity fills me with a joyful feeling of possibility, that there is always a possibility, that there is always a silver lining. It feels like optimism.
Does this take away from gratitude?
Am I being ungrateful for what I have when I am looking for more? Is curiosity also a state of dissatisfaction with my current reality?
Successful people are passionate explorers. They … F***! This doesn’t feel right! Time to get out of my head and dive deeper!!!
I know what I’m attracted to, but I hadn’t associated it with success. I am attracted to passion, curiosity, courage, open-mindedness, generosity, and kindness. These are traits I’ve found in people I consider successful but are these traits what make them successful? I am also attracted to intelligence, but I accept that my definition of intelligence has changed and will probably continue to change as my own experiences and knowledge change. I am convinced that intelligence is a learnable trait, but not a teachable one.
This is really frustrating! Why am I resisting this? I don’t know and I feel the question is distracting me from my train of thought.
Each time I say the word intelligence I hear the word curiosity right behind it. I feel strongly that curiosity build intelligence and I always have.
In this case, I am separating intelligence from knowledge. Intelligence includes an understanding of how to use the knowledge we have, and how to teach it. Whereas, knowledge is something that is learned, but not necessarily used.
How about this?
“I believe success comes from the passion for exploring curiosity and a willful optimism to change the world.“ Success is expressed in a near-obsessive drive to inspire, both others and oneself. The people I meet with these traits inspire me and fuel my need to inspire others. I write about journeys of success to give the world hope.”
Ok, this feels much closer to the gut feeling of what I want to say.
So what? Now what?
- What changes, improves, or gets created by doing this well?
1 – What changes?
I change. I get stronger with knowledge, optimism, self-confidence, and possibility. It gives me more to share. The sharing of knowledge fills me with joy.
I believe others change in similar ways. Learning is an action and action changes the world. It may not always be right away and in obvious ways, but enthusiasm, joy, excitement, which is what I get from learning, is contagious.
2 – What improves?
My skills, my understanding of people, situations, challenges, possibilities. All improve, which increases my ability to handle more challenges, and motivates me to reach further. My sense of accomplishment & my self-esteem improve.
Sharing positive knowledge, possibilities, curiosity stimulates other like-minded people and the planting of those seeds can change the world. Hope increases and I believe that is a vast improvement to what we see in the media. Even if only one person is changed by this, it improves the world’s optimism by one more person.
3 – What’s created by doing this well?
i) For the world:
Hope. The more we share what can be done, the more people will believe and be motivated to do more.
Belief in possibility
Challenge to go beyond
Excitement & happiness
ii) For me:
What is a Successographer to you?